Thursday, July 02, 2009

Mason Tateman

Sigh. I can't win.

I was leaving work today, rejoicing in the bliss of being able to leave a breathtaking hour early, when I saw a man walking into the building who seemed to be attractive. I say "seemed" because I didn't really look at him directly. It was more a surreptitious scan—you know, the scan that women perfect and men can't get down to save their lives.

Anyway, scan completed, I registered a couple of things: 1) the man was attractive, 2) he was my type, and 3) I should try to get his attention. I know—that last one is surprising. But I've been working on that whole "life plan" thing with coach Pen, and apparently, my total and complete lack of progress on the dating front can be somewhat related to my lack of action plan. [I pointed out that it was also due to lack of proper motivation, an overwhelming workload and laziness, but she appears to be having none of that.]

The problem was that by the time I processed all of this, the man who was walking toward me was, in fact, right next to me and within seconds would pass me. So, I did a very subtle double take in the hopes that he would see my blinding smile out of his peripheral vision. Well, subtle in that I nearly turned my body entirely around in order to accomplish it, but boy did I smile.

I wasn't entirely certain why the guy suddenly looked like he was braced for impact. I mean, I didn't even get close to him. I made no sudden lunging movements, and unless the smile was completely maniacal (rather than entirely appropriately perky), I think I was projecting "inviting" rather than "crazy". In the split second I had to ponder his reaction, my eyes flicked up to his face again.

Yeah, he might have been a fairly well-known actor. His name might rhyme with Mason Tateman. My entirely subtle double take may have been taken for "crazed fan reaction" rather than "entirely out of whack female flirting technique".

What do you do in this situation? It's not like I could yell, "No, I'm not a fan!" I mean, that just sounds wrong. Plus, it's sort of a lie. I do like his work; I just wouldn't approach him for an autograph. Also, running back to catch up to him in order to explain that I didn't even recognize him could also be taken the wrong way. You never know which famous person is going to find that charming and which one will take that as binge-worthy blow to their self-esteem.

[As a side note, can we finally get that electronic celeb board tracker in place? Maybe next to the name, it could give you clues to each day's preferences like "wants to be recognized", "on the edge", "likes to date non-industry types", "approach with caution", "bring cocaine" and "pretend like you've never heard of him". Could really be helpful.]

So, I did what I always do: I kept walking while carrying on a highly entertaining inner dialogue about whether or not the guy I just passed was indeed Mason Tateman. Hilarious. Seriously, if only I could market my confusion, I'd make a fortune.

What would you have done?

7 comments:

Kirstie said...

Inadvertent flirting with Jason Bateman? I'm so jealous!

Kate, Dating in LA said...

LOL! Too bad he looked so put off! I'm so bad with actors out of context. I need one of those Star Trek scanners that will give me all the vital stats on someone before I inadvertently create an incident. :)

danielletbd said...

I love him! This is why you need to carry scripts or a copy of my book with you: so when you "bump into" celebs, like in your office lobby or I don't know, say an organic restaurant in Brentwood, you have a conversation starter. :)

Kate, Dating in LA said...

@danielletbd LMAO! just to pull an entirely hypothetical example out of thin air...

Helen said...

Oooh. I like Danielle's advice. You need scripts. You need purpose. You need a plan! I also love the progress you made in actually trying to get him to notice you (which he did btw. If he were just, oh I don't know, let's say a USC alum who may or may not drive a Mercedes instead of a well-known actor I'm sure this would have gone much better! Over all though, I say well done!

Kate, Dating in LA said...

@Helen, LOL!!! that's true-- he did notice me. But I think the USC thing only works for people who actually went to USC. The men you ... um... check out for me wouldn't necessarily respond to me the way they respond to you.

Dee Murray said...

OMG! I LOVE Mason Tateman!!! It could have been Not-Mason-Tateman, the guy that looks just like him but isn't - Jerry O'Connell. Of course, he's a handsome star in his own right and the result would have been pretty much the same. I have no ideas. I'm glazed over with your whole "near brush" thing and clearly just babbling. On the bright side - he DID notice you!